One expert addresses how the wedding cake tradition could be a ‘giant red flag’
An anonymous bride on Reddit has alleged a cake-smashing incident ruined her wedding, and her post has led social media users and etiquette experts to debate if the tradition can be harmful.
The bride, who claims to be 27, turned to the “AITAH” subreddit where users of the app can vote on who’s to blame in a civil dispute.
The bride asked if she was wrong for abruptly leaving her wedding after her husband smashed cake in her face in front of all of their guests.
She wrote that she knew her husband found “cake smashing videos” funny and asked him to not do that to her because she’s not fond of the tradition.
She also wrote that her family “does the cake smashing thing,” and at the age of 17, she suffered a cut on her forehead with “substantial bleeding” when her mother shoved her face into her birthday cake. A cake decoration reportedly caused the cut, she claimed.
“I told him if he ever did something like that to me I’d leave him,” the bride wrote regarding her husband. “He started laughing but I was being for real.”
The bride wrote that she felt that their wedding day had gone perfectly, but it was ruined when her husband scooped “a huge chunk” of wedding cake and smashed it onto her face. She claims she left the venue right away despite her husband’s and family’s attempts to get her to stay.
“This was supposed to be the happiest day of our lives and he embarrassed me in front of everyone for some prank that he knew I hated,” the bride wrote. “Not only that, he ruined a 500 dollar cake. He ruined my makeup, my hair and the top of my dress. The cake got all over.”
The bride asked Reddit users if her departure was an overreaction, but many seem to think she was in the right for leaving, according to the post’s 12,500 comments and 31,200 upvotes.
“I think stunts like that are annulment-worthy, but that’s just me,” one Reddit user wrote.
“This isn’t just a cake or a prank, this is flat out disrespect,” another user wrote.
“He had one job and it was don’t smash a cake in his fiancée’s face,” another commenter added.
Dissenting commenters were largely downvoted, but some voiced that they think the bride shouldn’t have left the wedding venue.
“If all it takes is one cake to the face I don’t want to be there when things actually get tough,” one Reddit user wrote.