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Stop Feeling Inadequate With Where You Are in Life

Feeling Inadequate

Do you ever feel you’re not accomplishing everything that you want to get done? Maybe you wake up every day feeling inadequate and like you should be further along in your life.

These feelings of inadequacy can happen at any age and stage of life. For instance, on my 16th birthday, I ran into my bedroom, closed the door, and cried for an hour.

Why? I thought I had turned 16 and had accomplished nothing in my life.

Seriously. True story.

I remember it so vividly. In retrospect, that notion seemed ridiculous.

I was only 16. I was very young. Then again, similar thoughts ran across my mind when I turned 18, 21, and so forth.

With any milestone birthday, it is natural to think about your accomplishments or lack of accomplishments.

Have you ever felt inadequate with where you are in life?
Even the most accomplished people can fall into this trap of feeling like a failure. Maybe not everyone sits in a corner and cries about it.

However, the feeling is common. Goals, and the desire to accomplish great things in life, are not bad things on their own.

Mostly, that’s a positive thing. Our world would not be where it is today if we didn’t have people who achieved great things.

However, if we become consumed by feelings of failure and not accomplishing enough regularly, this can lead to unhealthy thoughts.

Through experience and an attitude change, I have been able to keep those negative feelings at bay. It doesn’t mean every day I wake up feeling like a sensational success, but I can move forward with my life and goals in a healthy manner.

Here are some helpful tips to help you overcome those feelings of inadequacy.

1. Make a list of things you have accomplished

We often forget our successes and probably have done more than we realize. A visual reminder of these accomplishments can do wonders for one’s confidence.

Write down the small accomplishments.

Including things, you might take for granted, like graduating from high school or owning a car. Write it on a piece of paper and post it on your wall.

When you see all the things you have actually done, you won’t ever say, “I have accomplished nothing.”

Another great way to reflect on your life is by writing your bio. When I feel like I’m not accomplishing enough, I will go to my website and read my bio again.

It refreshes my memory that there have been noteworthy achievements in my life and career.

2. Comparing yourself to others will contribute to feeling inadequate

I always tie those feelings of not accomplishing enough to measuring yourself against others.

There will always be someone more successful than you, who makes more money than you, who is better looking than you, and so on and so forth.

Letting envy rear its ugly head is unhealthy and detracts from your own accomplishments. Remember that your journey in life is unique and that other people’s success should not define you.

You can spend a lifetime trying to top someone else’s accomplishments and never take the time to appreciate your own.

Source: https://everydaypower.com/do-you-ever-feel-inadequate-with-your-life/

5 Ways To Stay on the Path To Become a Successful Writer

Overcome the thought of quitting content creation every other day by practicing 5 simple techniques.

Successful Writer

As a content creator, publishing new content regularly is no joke. It’s creatively hard work.

It’s hard enough for me that I think about quitting every other day. Yet, I am here writing this article and more in the future.

Why does the thought of quitting come?

As a professional Agile Coach, I like to perform root cause analysis of unwanted outcomes.

Thus, I used the “Five why” method to get to the heart of the problem. I came up with two findings.

# Self-Doubt

I do not think that I am the best writer this world has to offer. Nor do I think I am the worst writer ever born on earth.

I consider myself an average writer who can succeed by putting the necessary work in the right direction.

But, I ask myself, why am I writing every day? What if I do not succeed after writing regularly for 2 years.

Is it worth spending hours every day writing? Would it be better to spend that time doing hundreds of other things?

All these questions anchor me down into the depths of the sea called “self-doubt.” And if you are under self-doubt long enough, you will lose all your oxygen.

# It’s damn slow in the start

It is a cold dark night during the early days. There are no signs of views on your articles, subscribers, or revenue.

There might be exceptions who make it after writing a few articles. But, unfortunately, I am not among that 1%.

I come under the other 99% of the crowd who has one foot in their job and the other in writing. For us, writing is a hobby or a way to earn a few bucks on the side.

Unfortunately, the slow process of achieving success in blogging, combined with the above mindset, makes most writers quit within the first 6 months.

After understanding the root cause, it became easier to fix it. So here are 5 things I practice to suppress the thought of “Quitting.”

#1 Reminding myself to write every day for 2 years with no questions asked

Starting a blog or writing on Medium is a 2 minutes process. But, being successful in writing takes 2 years.

You cannot reach the event, i.e., a successful writer, by skipping the process of writing 100s of articles.

Thus, I committed to writing every day for at least 2 years with no questions asked.

I told myself that I would earn the right to self-doubt after writing for 2 years.

This simple commitment cuts me free from the anchor of self-doubt. Instead, it acts as a wind, pushing my ship forward.

#2 Following the principle: Show up every day

I learned from Tony Horton the power of showing up every day. He is one of the most influential men in health and fitness.

He said, Rome is not built in a day nor gonna be your body. Just show up every day.

Try your best and forget the rest. — Tony Horton

I apply the above principle in “writing” also. I remind myself that showing up every day is the superpower to reach my goals.

It is not important how many words you write. Showing up on the day you feel sick to your bones and still writing a single sentence is.

#3 Reading the success stories of other content creators

The success of other content creators is a reality and not a dream. If they can do it, so can I or anyone else.

Thus, you are not chasing an unrealistic goal. It is within your grasp.

Reading the success stories of fellow content creators cements that mindset. Moreover, it inspires me to continue learning and publishing content online.

#4 Looking back, I can see the progress clearly

I have been writing every day for 3 months now. When I look back, I can see the progress.

  • My content’s quality is better than before.
  • I now need less time to write 1000 words.
  • I make fewer grammatical mistakes.
  • Publications on Medium started to accept my articles.
  • Other metrics like views, followers, claps, etc., are also improving.

Of course, I am not earning anything yet, but the progress in other areas is real. It encourages me to continue on the path of writing every day.

#5 Imagining myself living my dream

Our desires motivate us to take steps to fulfill them.

Thus, visualizing yourself living the dream is the Absinthe of motivation you can give yourself.

Whenever the old friend “self-doubt” visits me, I show him our dream. After watching the dream, he happily leaves me to focus on the work required to achieve it.

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